Why Can’t I Stop Worrying?
This is a question I get asked all the time in therapy. Clients tell me their mind is always racing—they can never truly relax. Sometimes, they even miss out on important moments in life because, as they put it, “I’m always in my head.” I know how heavy that feels. And it’s one of the biggest reasons people with OCD, generalized anxiety, and perfectionism are often exhausted. Your brain never shuts off, always scanning for danger, anticipating the worst-case scenario, and running through every “what if.”
Most of us know what it’s like to feel anxious once in a while. Maybe you’re waiting on important test results, worried about money, or nervous before a big presentation at work. Occasional worry is a normal part of life. But when worry becomes constant and overwhelming—when it feels like it’s running the show—it may be more than everyday stress.
What Is Generalized Anxiety Disorder?
GAD isn’t just “being a worrier” or “stressing too much.” It’s a condition where anxiety becomes persistent and disproportionate to what’s actually happening. People with GAD often describe a sense of dread that doesn’t go away. These feelings can last for months—or even years—and they can interfere with work, relationships, and daily life.
GAD usually develops gradually, often in early adulthood, though it can begin at any age. Women are more likely to experience it, and some notice heightened symptoms during pregnancy or after childbirth. The hopeful news? With the right support and tools, anxiety can be managed, and life can feel lighter again.
Common Signs and Symptoms
*Everyone’s experience with GAD is unique, but here are some common signs that may show up:
Excessive worry about everyday things (work, health, family, finances, etc.)
Difficulty controlling worries or calming racing thoughts
Feeling restless, “on edge,” or easily irritated
Trouble concentrating or focusing
Sleep struggles—either difficulty falling asleep, staying asleep, or feeling unrested
Physical discomforts such as headaches, stomachaches, muscle tension, or fatigue
Sweating, trembling, lightheadedness, or shortness of breath
Needing frequent bathroom breaks or trouble swallowing
These symptoms can ebb and flow but often intensify during stressful periods, like exams, family conflict, or health challenges.
**Many of these symptoms can overlap with OCD and other conditions, so be sure to talk to me or your therapist about your specific situation.
How Anxiety Shows Up in Life
Adults with GAD may find themselves worrying about:
Job performance or security
Physical health or illness
The well-being of their children or loved ones
Money and financial stability
Being on time or completing everyday tasks “just right”
Moving Forward With Hope
Living with generalized anxiety can feel exhausting. But it’s important to remember: you’re not alone, and you’re not broken. Anxiety doesn’t define who you are—it’s something you’re experiencing, not who you are at your core.
With therapy, support, and sometimes medication, people with GAD can find relief. Skills like learning to challenge unhelpful thoughts, practicing calming techniques, and gradually facing fears can make a meaningful difference. One of the most powerful tools I talk about in therapy is beginning to become aware of when you are in the “worry tornado” and trying to ground yourself back into the present. Remember, worries are imagined fears about the future - look around and ask yourself “What is actually happening right now, in this moment?” People will often find that even if they still feel anxious, they realize everything is relatively safe in the current moment. Be sure to ask me about specific strategies to help with your worry.
If you recognize yourself in these words, know that help is out there—and you don’t have to carry the weight of worry by yourself.
You’re ready for things to feel different—and I’m here to help you get there.
Let’s talk about what’s been holding you back and how we can break the cycle of anxiety together. Book your free consultation today—so you can start feeling lighter, calmer, and more like yourself again.